Have you ever dreamed about sex dreams at night? You are not alone. They are a normal part of our life. It is relatively safe to have them, whether you are single, in a relationship, or getting married.
Why do you have sex dreams?
Dreams usually relate to what’s happening in our waking life. If your days are filled with stress and anxiety, you will probably end up with some unpleasant dreams.
Numerous psychologists indicate that sex dreams don’t suggest any ways of dissatisfaction with your relationship or sex life. They are rather vehicles for unpacking intense emotions and feelings. Conflicted feelings around sex are usually signaling an area where we are ready to heal and grow. These symbols and images always connect to your feelings, wishes, or things you are struggling to solve.
What do sex dreams mean?
In order to capture the essence of a dream, it would be better to focus on the symbolic representation. By focusing on the experience of feelings in your dream, you will find the potential emotional needs that your sex dream is trying to have you fulfill in walking life. Here are the most common five scenarios that appear in sex dreams.
1. Sex with a stranger
Your active libido is a bit high, and open communication with your partner can be a good start. Let them know about your feelings, but still, be sensitive to the fact that they may not feel the same way.
2. Sex with an ex
It usually happens after the break-up, and it could mean anything from getting used to a new partner to unresolved grief about an ex. Allow yourself some time to adjust to having sex with a new partner could be a good choice in this situation.
3. Sleeping with someone you dislike
If during the dream you encounter the person you dislike, it usually acts as a trigger. The dream comes into metaphorical play when feeding on the negative emotion, but you need to consider the sex act in the dream carefully.
The meaning will depend on if you were active or passive, which to know if you were emphasizing the success, or reliving the humiliation from that person.
4. Sex in public
Having sex in public could mean you are trapped in your sexual desires. The superego part of you could warn you that you are too much exposing your self to aspects of your life and made yourself vulnerable to social criticism.
5. Sex with a student or teacher
The dream can be an indicator that the person has a charming or narcissistic father who deprived them of sustained attention. You may fantasize about the encompassing feeling of being fully loved by an authority figure.
Sex dreams are a normal part of life, and it reveals some of your subconscious thoughts throughout the day. Embrace your sex dreams and using them to learn more about yourself. However, if these dreams disturb you too much, you‘d better seek a mental health professional for help.
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What if you dream but wake up not knowing what you dreamed. So so think you did not have one at all. I wish I had sex dreams, I don’t have them in real life. How can you remember what dreams you have had.
I have them very often. They are very vivid. And usually involves my ex from 20 years ago. She is as my first relationship and I haven’t seen her in 2 decades. I wonder if she dreams of me as well. That would be crazy if we dream of it together.
The same thing happens to me with my x-husband. We divorced in 2014, and often dream of him and I together. I also wonder if he dreams about me. We are over 3,000 miles away. That will be so interesting if we also dream together.
I love it
How about having sex with no face (I can just feel them) sometimes monster? Thnx
I get that too. But for me it’s people from past traumatic experiences that my brain doesn’t want to remember. Or it could be somebody that you wanted, and you liked their body but there was a flaw on their face that you didn’t find attractive and your brain shit it out so you would enjoy your dream.
What sex with with a married man?
I have had sex dreams before and I remember them vividly all except for most faces. I don’t think that the men had faces. But I remember all of their bodies very clearly. Some of the dreams I have had were people I had a crush on but never consciously thought about having sex with.
Two nights in a row. Once with an ex with whom I still have a somewhat friendly relationship. Once with someone I don’t know.
When you have a dream you don’t dream about someone you haven’t seen before or don’t know so it’s more then likely someone you just seen on a video,waking down the street, ect..
How abou watching sex right next to u IN YOUR DREAM😭
I had another sex dream about my FEMALE manager and it makes me feel weird because I have to see her every morning while still remembering my dreams…
I had a sexual dream with my uncle who I lived with as a teenager who was a narcissist and in the past made sexual comments towards me and was an alcoholic drug addict! He died a couple of years ago! I felt like he was haunting my dreams!
I feel so confused and disgusted with myself!
Don’t feel disgusted with yourself. It’s not your fault. It does not mean you consciously approve or even consider it. You can’t control who is in your dream. It’s people in our lives that get mixed around in the events of dreams. Bring him means nothing about him. It’s not your fault.